Welcome to the blog
This is a space for honest kōrero (chat) —where I share reflections, and real‑life experiences from my mahi (work) as a mediator.
I write from the heart, drawing on what I’ve learned sitting with whānau (family) in difficult moments.
Inspired by my ‘nanny farm’ (pictured) who raised nine tamariki (children) and countless mokopuna (grandchildren).
How much does mediation cost in New Zealand?
Wondering what mediation costs — and whether it’s cheaper than going to court?
This guide walks you through what to expect, from free family mediation to private rates, lawyer fees, and Family Court costs. Written in plain English, it’s here to help you feel more confident about your next steps.
Common Worries Before Mediation
If you’re feeling unsure about mediation—or wondering if it’s just another argument waiting to happen—you’re not alone. In this post, I share the a common concern people bring to mediation and why, despite the worry, things often feel very different once we’re in the room. Mediation isn’t magic, but it is structured, respectful, and guided—offering a chance to slow down and actually be heard.
Nature as Mediator
Sometimes, the path through conflict feels dark and endless. A stranger’s quiet wisdom invited me to listen—not to words, but to the music of nature surrounding us. This simple shift opened a door to inner peace and strength I hadn’t known I had. In this reflection, I share how nature became my unexpected guide through difficult times—and how it can be yours, too.
The Imperfect Family: Finding Strength and Love in the Messiness
I used to believe the perfect family meant no conflict, no hurt, no hard conversations. But over time, I’ve learned that love isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up, even when it’s messy. This blog is a reflection on real family, real connection, and why I believe in healing through conversation.