How much does mediation cost in New Zealand?

Written By Sandra Durston

Many people I work with ask: “How much does mediation cost?” The answer depends on what kind of situation you’re dealing with — but in many cases, it’s free or much more affordable than court or lawyers.

Here’s a guide — no jargon, just the basics.

Whānau (family) Mediation – Parenting & Care of Tamariki (children)

If you're working through parenting or care arrangements for tamariki, then Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)could be right for you, and it’s free!

From 1 July 2025, the government is funding FDR, so there’s no cost to you.

What’s included:

  • A private kōrero (chat) to prepare.

  • Mediation session - online or face-to-face.

  • Help writing up an agreement.

You don’t need a lawyer or to go to court to access this. You can self-refer — Fair Way Resolution - and if the process feels confusing, I’m here to walk alongside you.

Other Mediation – eg Neighbours, Workplaces

For other types of disputes — like neighbour issues, flatmates, workplace stress etc — you’ll usually need a private mediator.

Typical Costs:

  • Hourly rates: $180–$400+

  • Half-day (around 4 hours): $800–$1,500

  • Full-day (up to 8 hours): $2,000–$4,000

Some mediators offer low-cost options for community-based matters. We can always explore what might fit your budget.

Lawyer Costs (For Comparison)

Lawyers tend to cost more:

  • Lawyers: $400–$600+ per hour

  • Specialist barristers may charge up to $600+ per hour

Even a simple letter or legal opinion can cost several hundred dollars. If things go to court, the total can quickly spiral upwards...

Family Court Costs – Beyond Money

Parenting cases in the Family Court come at a great personal cost:

  • Lawyers’ time and prep.

  • Delays (months even years).

  • Emotional toll and stress on whānau.

  • Possible expert reports or social work involvement.

Mediation gives many people a chance to clear the air, and work towards a way forward — without going through a drawn-out legal process.

Why Choose Mediation?

Mediation is about manaaki — care, support, and treating people with dignity. It’s not about blame. It’s about finding a way through.

  • More affordable.

  • Quicker.

  • Private.

  • Whakamana (restoring dignity and voice).

You don’t have to agree on everything — just being willing to talk can be a powerful first step.

If you're unsure what path suits your situation, you're welcome to reach out. No pressure. I’m here to help you figure out the best next step — in a way that feels calm, respectful, and clear.

Sandra Durston

I’m an accredited FDR provider and mediator based in Aotearoa New Zealand. I work alongside families and communities to help navigate conflict with care, deep listening, and cultural understanding—creating space for honest conversations and meaningful resolution.

https://www.sandradurston.com
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